Genuine Positivity

I am all about living life in genuine positivity, and looking for the best in every situation.

But that doesn’t always mean what people think it does. And it definitely doesn’t align with the coined term toxic positivity, where people outlandishly spout “think positive” without understanding how it actually works. There’s this part called being that’s essential to living in a genuine state of positivity.

I have one-hundred percent been an over-thinker, an over-planner, and an admiral with a contingency for all scenarios, long before I treasured living life being positive. I have this ability to see how pieces can fall together (before they actually do), and that allows me to build plans and prepare for both the best and worst-case outcomes. Many times, I find myself predicting situations as they’re unfolding, intuitively knowing which direction things are turning. Before my spiritual awakening, I’d attribute that knowing to my “be-prepared-for-all-situations” habit.

However, since learning how much consciousness plays a role in creating reality, I’ve come to recognize that my intuitive knowing on how a situation will play out is not because I brainstormed all these scenarios in my head and made plans about what could happen. Rather, it’s because I’ve placed my focus and awareness into the field of intelligence. As the past, present, and future all simultaneously exist in this endless field of possibilities, my energetic self not only already knows what’s going to happen, but is influencing that outcome simply by my putting my awareness into it, particularly if I’m doing so on a subconscious level.

Or put more simply: we create our reality from the subconscious frequency, which is programmed by our energy and thoughts. Intuitively, that bit of divine intelligence in us sees the entire pattern all webbed together and when we put our trust into that field, we catch glimpses of what it knows.

You can, and do, create your own personal reality, and thus can cultivate a genuine embodiment of being positive, by simply changing your subconscious belief systems. I like to think that the physical world I’m currently walking through is a record of my past emotions, feelings, and thoughts on display. And the same goes for you.

First, it is essential to understand the universal law of correspondence. The law of correspondence states that everything we experience physically is a mirror for what’s happening internally, on our energetic frequency. As above, so below. As within, so without. Therefore, what we focus on is what will eventually be reflected back to us. Our focus and awareness determines where our energy goes, and where our energy goes determines what is created from it.

If our thought patterns, conditioned/limited beliefs, and emotional feelings are of turmoil, then we will see turmoil and chaos reflected in our outer world. On the contrary, if instead we have calm thoughts, positive subconscious beliefs, and live in high frequency emotional states, we will instead see peace and calm reflected in our outer world.

Second, it is essential to understand that the vibrations of frequency, which create our reality, run far deeper than the analytical, waking mind that dominates our brains the majority of the time. Most of our mirrored reflections come from subconscious belief systems and thought patterns that are ingrained into our body and nervous system from years of conditioning. It is not necessarily so simple as to, “think positively” on a surface level, but rather to build positive emotions and balanced, mindful states into the core of our being.

The waking mind may know, and even genuinely want to think and be positive, but if the undercurrents of your thought patterns and conditioned beliefs are angry and negative, you won’t be able to break through them with the conscious mind alone. Essentially, your body remembers how it reacted to certain situations, and when those same situations are repeated, it will repeat the same reaction. Eventually, after enough conditioning, the brain forms a neural pathway to dictate this response so that whenever the scenario arises, you automatically know how to react and do so from a subconscious level. Add thousands of these programmed belief systems into a person and now you’ve got their person-ality (personal reality).

So how exactly are these subconscious belief patterns formed?

Say, for example, that every time someone cuts you off in traffic, you immediately think the worst of that person, and throw insults or names around. It might start from seeing a parent or guardian react that way to other drivers. Or it might start from a single time you got cut off. Regardless of where it began, the moment you repeat that reaction, it will begin conditioning your subconscious to think badly of others and to assume ill-intent. When it happens again, and again, you continually reinforce this thought pattern with your curses and insults. Your energetic vibration will hum at this low level of anger and distrust anytime you deal with a traffic-related incident because it is continuing on without interference. After countless times, you may not even realize you are muttering under your breath and getting emotionally charged up. It becomes habit. Instinct.

Next, you might start to see that distrust and anger spillover into other aspects of human interaction in your life, particularly if something doesn’t go your way or it appears as though someone has one-upped you. Until you recognize the reaction as improper and actively choose a different response to the same situation when it crops up, you will continue breeding a loop of negative being about other people. Because now, at a subconscious level, you believe that other people have bad intentions and are not to be trusted. You might think other other people only care about themselves and are trying to screw you over, so you start becoming more greedy to compensate. You might stop doing certain things or helping certain people because of these subconscious belief patterns.

Can you see how conditioned beliefs begin to snow-pile?

The good news is that it goes both ways, and if you fall into negative subconscious programming, you sure can flip the script and pull yourself up into a positive one. Let’s loop back to our example about being cut off in traffic. If you’ve fallen into this pattern, the next time something happens that makes you angry toward another driver, dare to think differently. Dare to think GREATER than you feel. Instead of muttering an insult, imagine that driver has an emergency they are rushing to. They probably didn’t mean to cut you off, and are perhaps rushing to a hospital. Sometimes it can help to think comically, and imagine that person has to poop something fierce and they are speeding home, hoping they will make it. You might still feel mad or angry, but now you’ve thrown a new thought into the mix. The next time you have a traffic related incident that makes you mad, it’ll be just a little bit easier to think about an alternative reason that person behaved badly with their car. It’s not that the person has ill-intent, it’s just that you don’t know what’s really happening from that person’s perspective.

Because obviously anything you are thinking about this other person is not actually real. That person could very well be selfish and cut you off for no reason other than they’re an asshole. Cool. That’s not on you to judge or to get upset about. Anyone who behaves badly has their own internal issues and conditioned belief patterns to address. Your responsibility is to your thoughts and your reactions, and yours alone. Having negative limited beliefs that generalize other people (all people are bad, or all people suck) only creates turmoil within your internal system, and that turmoil will then be reflected into your outer world. If you truly believe that people are bad, you will run into more situations to reinforce that belief. You will have interactions with more people that have bad intentions, because that is exactly what you are programming your outer world to give you.

The sooner you realize that the things you think, say, and do, and the reactions you repeat over and over again play a huge role in what your outer world looks like, the sooner you can start cultivating a better human experience for yourself. For any action that creates inner turmoil and low vibrating emotions (anger, frustration, distrust, etc.) is an action that needs to be pruned.

This is not to say that you will change your outer world overnight. Remember what I said about the current outer world being a past record of my thoughts, feelings, and emotions? It’s not showing me my internal state at this exact moment. It’s showing my internal state and built up belief systems that have been building for years. Start deconstructing those conditioned, negative belief patterns, and slowly start watching life open up and unfold into something much more magical.

That is how I bring and use positivity in my life. I don’t sit and try to “think positive” when an unexpected situation presents itself to me. I already know that everything happens in alignment with what must be. I will look through the situation to find the glimmers, the things about it that are actually beneficial, or else to purely find acceptance that this experience is happening, and it’s a challenge I must get through. It’s okay for me to experience sadness and to feel angry when certain things happen, but not letting myself get stuck in those emotions and reacting directly to them is what’s important. I can be annoyed someone cut me off in traffic and still think positively about that person and wish them well.

Now that I walk in genuine positivity, feeling it and being it, I can’t help but chuckle at the old me, the one who who used to consistently plan for the worst. Back then, I was expecting the worst to happen, and you know what? A lot wild, unhinged stuff happened to me. A lot of things never lined up quite right, and tons of things fell apart.

Now? Everything is falling together. I find myself in the right place at the right time, all the time. I can’t even count the number of “coincidences” or perfect timing situations that happen over and over and over again. From tiny things, like making a phone call at the right time, to bigger things, like when my husband and I moved our wedding up a whole year on a whim. We decided to move it from the original planned date in April of 2020, to May of 2019. And we all know what happened in the spring of 2020, when the entire world shut down…

Cultivate being genuinely positive in your subconscious belief patterns, and transform your entire human experience. It’s definitely worth the hype.

Until Next Time –

Yours for happy writing,

Lady Jenji