Judge Not. Resist Not. Fear Not.

We’ve all heard the phrase, judge not less you be judged yourself. Or some variation of it.

Of course we shouldn’t judge others, but that phrase embodies a deeper meaning, something I feel is ultimately more difficult than not judging other people:

Not judging yourself.

Over the past year, I’ve been going through a tremendous spiritual growth spurt. My physical reality has been a twirling whirlwind, and yet I’ve taken life slow, and spent time consuming both spiritual and scientific books that have opened my relationship with the divine essence of who I Am. I’ve furthered my understanding of how this reality operates, and what it is we’re meant to be doing here, and giving myself the grace to be as I am now has been the best blessing I never knew I needed.

My caveat, of course, is that I truly don’t *know* anything. I’m merely taking the bits and pieces that I’ve researched and stringing them together coherently to answer bigger questions that I’ve pondered for the majority of my adult life.

For example, its understanding how earth’s processes are all interdependent and connected (The Story of Earth by Robert Hazen), from the oceans to the atmosphere to the rocks to the life living within it, and recognizing that the same is true from a spiritual perspective, that all souls and beings are connected (A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle). When things like ‘intuition’ and the ‘right place right time’ manifest, we see the interconnected system play out. Two different studies, the scientific study of the physical, and the introspective study of our divine essence, come to the same conclusion: everything is connected.

Next, mix in biocentrism, which is a fascinating concept that suggests consciousness is central to life as we know it, and that the reality around us only exists because of our conscious interaction with it, and everything gets deeper (Biocentrism: How Life and Consciousness are the Keys to Understanding the True Nature of the Universe by Robert Lanza). From a quantum mechanics level, biocentrism is the key to even remotely understanding why particles behave the way they do, and when you look at the science of how microbial life formed, adapted, and evolved to better fit in its environment, we find a trail of more breadcrumbs leading back to conscious observation. A wave cannot become matter until it is observed by consciousness, and in this same wheelhouse, we begin to question what ‘time’ and ‘space’ actually mean, and how they don’t technically exist in the way that mainstream thinking purports that they do.

Add in some theories on the Akashic Records, which are a vibrational dimension that holds the knowledge of every soul and every lifetime, action, thought or experience related to it (How To Read The Akashic Records by Linda Howe), and now we understand that life is timeless and infinite. That since ‘time,’ as understood by the masses, does not truly exist (scientifically speaking) and we have the ability to log into a records system and learn about our souls existence, its past lives, and what current lesson we’re trying to learn, we see that this claim is supported on both a scientific and spiritual level.

Throw in a study on using the heart to transform anger (Transforming Anger: The Heartmath Solution For Letting Go of Rage, Frustration and Irritation by Doc Childre & Deborah Rozman) and we learn how our body and the physical organs we have are very connected to our spirit self and emotions. We observe how using the heart, paired with simple breathing exercises, actually changes our emotional responses, our mindset and physical reactions. If that’s not proof that our bodies and everything encompassed by it (the mind, the soul) are as interconnected as the earth and all its processes are, then I don’t know what is.

So that’s what I’ve been doing this past year – reading and drawing parallels and furthering my genuine study of life: what it is, how it operates, and how we can better interact with our environment. And there are times it all feels overwhelming – just trying to understand the Truth and who I Am can be difficult to grasp, and many times, I’ve wondered what is wrong with me, or why can’t I get it, or why isn’t a certain something clicking.

I am learning to not judge myself. I must accept that I am where I need to be, at all times of this journey, and that even though I may not be as spiritually advanced or intellectually aware as I feel I should be, that’s okay. I am perfect and whole and divine just as I am.

And the same is said for you.

Judging – whether other people, situations, events, or anything at all – is one of the major roadblocks that we must break apart to achieve true peace and mindful presence. Letting go of the way you think things should be, or placing an opinion on why something unfolded the way it did, will open your connection to the divine in monumental ways. Even judging the smallest things, like the weather, is a no go. Simply let things be, and that begins with yourself. Let yourself be as you are. Only then can you continue your growth into being better. Constant self-improvement is vital to your journey, and the growth of what you’re meant to be learning here, in this life.

So this opens up to the next segment: resist not.

In the same manner that we must not judge ourselves and situations, we must also not resist what is. Do not resist where you are with your spiritual or physical journey. You’ve likely heard the phrase, what you resist, persists, and that could not be truer. As we are all energy magnets, we are constantly attracting what we are focused on. If there is something negative happening in your life that you constantly think about and wish wouldn’t happen, well guess what? You are only sending out a vibration to the universe that this negative thing is what you are focused on, and therefore that negative thing is what you are going to attract!

Let’s say you are unhappy with some part of yourself – maybe you’re timid and have a hard time connecting with people and making friends, or you think yourself to be too much of something: too loud or too sensitive or too weird. If you are constantly worried or stressing about whatever this lack you feel about yourself is, your frequency is sending that out into the universe – that you lack this particular personality trait and therefore you will continue to be in lack of it. The universe is constantly sending our vibrations back to us, in ways of people, experiences, and situations. If you focus on and are resisting a part of you (simply by wishing it wasn’t true), then you will continue to be that way – you will continue having no friends, or feeling like you are too much, because you believe that to be true, and how you feel inward is always reflected outward.

Instead, you must not resist where you are at. You must openly and honestly accept that this is where you are. Say to yourself, this is who I am, and this is where I need to be right now. Allow yourself to then begin thinking about how you want to feel and what you want to be like. If you want to be less timid and connect with more friends, strategize ways to step outside your comfort zone in the next social situation you’re in. Believe that you are worthy and whole as you are, and know that you deserve to make human connection and friendship, then take a risk. Talk to someone with a renewed sense of confidence in yourself, and see what happens. If you truly do not resist the current stage of your journey, the universe will see that, and it will, in turn, send you what you believe yourself to be worthy of and already have (friends, a fun personality, etc.)

See, there’s no fooling the universe. You must truly accept where you are, and let go of resistance to how you feel now for this magic to happen. Go with the flow as they say, and focus on the life you want to have as if you are already living it! That’s how you manifest and attract it to you. Even if you don’t have close friends right now, feel in your innermost essence that you have friends, that your life is abundant with good people (because likely it is, you’re just not paying attention!), and watch as new relationships (and maybe old ones) come forward onto your path.

Fear not, for the universe is going to supply you with what you need at the exact right time that you need it (of course, that’s not always what you think or want). The last segment of accepting yourself as you are now, is to never be afraid of what’s unfolding or happening in this physical reality. There will be painful moments. Things will go wrong. Challenges will appear that you must overcome. Heartbreak. Grief. Horrible, horrific happenings. These things will happen. In my post Don’t Mind What Happens, I detail why we must live with acceptance of all things that happen, and this is especially true when living with ourselves and our current journey. You must not fear where you are at, or what is happening, even if it seems tragic. There is a reason for all things that happen, as we are all connected and part of a larger pattern. Do not fear how you are right now. It is okay, I promise.

Accepting what I feel to be true, that our souls are infinite, that we live multiple lives in this physical world, constantly recycling over and over as we come back time and again to learn new lessons, I know now that what’s happening in this present moment is not forever. I know that the way I feel about myself or what I think I might lack is not something to get worked up over. I should not beat myself up over not being ‘as far along’ as I think I should be. All I can do is follow the path laid before me, trust that I am where I need to be, and open myself up to the divine essence flowing through every person, every plant, every being.

And you must do the same. Judge not. Resist Not. Fear Not.

Allow yourself to live fully integrated with these three thought patterns, and your life will transform. In a world filled with people who want to ‘be right’ and ‘know best,’ step back and simply allow things to just be. The truth is, you don’t know what’s best. You won’t always be right. All you can do is take conscious action towards bettering yourself in this current physical life and evolving your soul. It takes time and nothing is going to magically happen overnight, but it’s worth the effort.

Everything is going to work out in the end. You either accept that and live in peaceful presence with yourself, or you don’t. The choice is always yours, and no one can choose for you.

Until Next Time –

Yours for Happy Writing,

Lady Jenji