I’ve got a perspective to share on gender and all the mayhem that’s happening between the two major political parties in the United States of America. This hot-take is likely to get me “cancelled” by extremists on both sides, not that I care. I do not associate with either party and instead have an independent mix of thoughts and views based on morality, rational thinking, and love.
If you’ve learned anything about me in all these years of posting about personal growth and spirituality, I hope it’s that you know I want to see you, you whoever’s reading this, EMPOWERED. We are all capable of magnanimous things, and reaching our full potential. Simply step into your divinity and let life unfold.
Gender is such a sensitive topic nowadays, and it is with utmost respect for all humanity and all our feelings, and for the betterment of our collective consciousness, that I feel called to share these thoughts.
First, I must affirm that there are so many different ways to live and be on this physical layer of reality. There is so much uniqueness about humanity, so many different preferences, and ranges in taste, style, and likes. This absolutely extends to romantic partners, and how we self-identify. The beautiful part of life is all the variety, and just because you do not understand or identify with the way another person chooses to live or what they believe in, does not mean there is anything wrong with that other person. Assuming, of course, that how you choose to live does not actively harm another individual, i.e. you are not running around punching other people in the face.
There are also many levels of awareness, and perception matters on this physical reality. Whenever you are faced with someone who thinks differently than you, remember that most people are doing the best they can at their level of awareness.
The concept of being gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, none of this is anything new. Humans have been sleeping with the same and opposite sexes for what I would guess is pretty much our entire existence. We’ve been questioning who we are and embracing the male and female aspects of our gender, both attributes of which exist inside all humans (and inside all life). It is one of the universal laws. Is a male/female romantic pairing factually more common and what was eventually pushed onto society as the only “normal” relationship? Absolutely. Until pretty recently, in a historical context, being part of the LGBTQ+ community was taboo, and in some places, it still is. But just because it wasn’t “accepted” by societal standards doesn’t mean it is not valid. People love who they love, and gender frankly doesn’t matter.
All humanity must eventually come to terms with this.
The same way we must all come to terms with, and accept, that while all humans have both masculine and feminine attributes and sometimes align with a gender that is not their biological sex, there is still a difference between the biological male and female body.
Questioning who you are or your gender, and how you fit into this world is normal. All people go through phases of figuring out their own personal truths, how they belong, and how to live authentically. And as someone who believes in reincarnation and the seven universal laws, there absolutely are genuine transgender humans that should be given every opportunity to live presenting as the gender they align with. There is no question in my mind.
However, that does not mean the biological body automatically alters to match the internal feelings. For those that want to live and be seen as the gender they align with, making body modifications may be necessary, from hormones to reproductive organs and more. Committing to these changes show someone who’s done the internal work, and talked the transition through with a counselor. It shows someone who is genuine about wanting to live authentic as their true self. And for those that don’t want to make physical modifications to their bodies or simply cannot? That’s fine too, so long as they accept there are fundamental differences between male and female body anatomies.
Accepting that there are differences between biological male and female bodies, we can logically conclude to accept transgender people for who they are, with the caveat that there has to be some sort of guideline, or practice, put into place to protect certain spaces, such as men/women’s sports, locker rooms, and prisons. The factual truth is that a transgender woman is different from a biological woman, physically. It is not fair to impede upon women’s sports with a biological male body. Perhaps if certain requirements were met, the person in question could be allowed to compete. The factual truth, is that a biological man who commits horrendous crimes against women has no business being allowed to transition and serve their sentence in a women’s prison. Saying these things does not make one transphobic. It makes them rational.
It is unfortunate that there are nefarious people in this world. There are people who will scheme and hurt and lie. There are greedy people, and those who wish ill on others. People operate at their level of awareness, and as there is good, so there will be evil. This is the universal law of polarity, of opposites, which everything has. Collectively, we have manifested a society full of division and mistrust, swinging to the extreme opposites on both ends, and to combat this we must learn to compromise, and practice acceptance.
Acceptance on both sides. Acceptance that love is love, and gender is a spectrum. Acceptance that being transgender is different and not the gender-normal, and that it’s okay to discuss and implement solutions that allow transgender people to participate in society as their chosen gender in the safest manner for everyone.
We’re in the middle of such a volatile time in history. It’s a wild world out there, and we must accept the precautions that come from living in said times. The discussions meant to protect biological women from becoming victims of those with ill-intent are spoken to create solutions, and invoke compromises that make everyone feel safe. The discussions meant to ensure those with actual mental health disorders receive treatment and help, rather than getting pushed down a spiral leading toward worse, are done for the same.
Mental healthcare is an actual joke in this nation, and living in a sick society is not helping anyone (sick from unaffordable living, poor healthcare, burnout, division, etc.). A lack of people being able to find inner peace, and true acceptance with what is, does not help either. Emotional regulation and self-reflection should be elementary, and taught to us from childhood, but instead we’re left to flounder with our human-ness and figure out these complicated feelings all our own.
The way you choose to live and the personal preferences you have is no one else’s business, the same way that you should not be concerned about someone else’s preferences or sexual tastes. Those types of preferences do not impact anyone else except your chosen partners, and when we as a society can stop requiring validation for our likes and stop bullying/hurting those whose likes are different than ours, only then can we start healing collectively.
But it is also absolutely fair that we, as a society, need people to work through their traumas and hurts, and to build strong mental faculties. People need to look inward, find their truths and their inner peace, and be comfortable and confident in who they are and what they like. They need to be HONEST with themselves and transcend the “victim mentality.” When you live authentically, I could care less about your sexual orientation, or if you align as non-binary or gender-fluid, or are transgender, cisgender, whoever you are is acceptable and welcome. However, we need to protect people from making decisions when they are too young, or because they are lost or confused or traumatized. I have several friends and acquaintances that are transgender, both male to female and female to male. I also know people who thought they were ready to transition when they were younger, but ended up feeling differently as they grew up, and were thankful they hadn’t made major body modifications as a teenager.
There is a “bandwagon mentality” that humans are apt to jump on. Young people who have no instructions on how to handle their feelings, thoughts, and emotions (for being human is insanely complex) or how to work through intensely traumatic and de-humanizing situations, may put themselves into shoes that are not actually theirs. That is part of self-discovery and figuring out what you do and don’t like. Let kids explore, let them try new things, let them “wear the hat” for a while. They may do things because their friends are doing it – this is nothing new and peer pressure (even unintentional peer pressure) is absolutely real. Let them do it anyway, so long as nothing permanent happens until they are an adult and are mentally and emotionally equipped to make those decisions, with no fear of regret.
The line between allowing people to live authentically, and protecting people from harm (from themselves and from others) is the line that extremists on both sides need to come together and compromise on. There has to be acceptance and understanding given on both ends.
For those that choose to use religion as a blanket of defense, by all means, live authentically with those religious beliefs, but please remember that not everyone lives by that religion. Certain rules that dictate a person’s bodily autonomy or who they love are not beliefs that everyone else follows, and just because you believe it, doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone. Religions have been a central root in world cultures for thousands upon thousands of years, and there are so many different ones out there. Many of these religions were used to indoctrinate people and spread false narratives, while tapping into real truths about god and divinity, which is what makes it so hard to separate the reality from the nonsensical in this modern era. For example, from my perspective, god lives within you and prayer/meditation is absolutely essential to discovering the Truth about who/what you are (a Being of Light). However, god (the divinity within) absolutely does not care if you like the same sex while here on the physical realm.
Whether you agree with those statements or not, it does not matter to me, so long as the way you choose to live does not actively inflict harm on another human. Discussing different beliefs and bringing conversations to the table is not the same as spreading hate, let’s be one-thousand percent clear on that. A clear example of hate speech: “gay people are gross.” Alternately, an example of non hate speech: “According to my religion, being gay is a sin.”
Religious beliefs do not automatically trump secular ones, but people are allowed to have them anyway. Let them simply be different and let people live how they choose. Have a discussion, but do not force your beliefs onto others. So long as we are all allowed to have our marriages, partnerships, and equality under the law, regardless of sexual orientation, gender or religion, then who cares. Yes, as I stated before, eventually all humanity will come to accept LGBTQ+ lifestyles as normal, but its impossible to expect religious beliefs that have been ingrained into our cultures for thousands of years to change in one or two generations. Acceptance will take time.
Your soul, your divinity, only craves to be authentic, to shine bright and travel through the physical realm in harmony. Find your inner peace, find your balance and live accordingly. Live with love and gratitude in your heart, for all creatures and humans in this world. We are all connected and our collective consciousness together determines the current physical world we experience.
Maybe this post will help someone see things from a different point of view. Maybe this post will increase tolerance and understanding. Maybe this post will only make people scoff and point out all of the things they think are wrong with it.
Getting the discussion going, getting the mental wheels turning, that is all I can hope for. Think freely. Be open to change. Accept that there are differences in this world. Love fiercely and be responsible for yourself, and your journey.
And keep on shining your Light.
Until Next Time –
Yours for honest writing,
Lady Jenji
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